16.5.12

The Gallery - Morning


It doesn't seem to matter how tired he is or how tightly I tuck him in - by morning my 7 year old often ends up hanging out of bed like this. 
He's my restless sleeper and my night owl. And he has a habit of quietly rearranging his room after lights out - so I'm never quite sure what I'm going to find when I check on him. My little darling is going through a stage of setting traps, after watching Home Alone (again). This usually involves his paperweight collection, books piled up by the door and loads of string wrapped around the handle....

I wouldn't have a chance of taking a photo of the other two sleeping in the morning unless I set my alarm. They are my larks. Always up bright and early, no matter what time they go to bed. These two take after their dad, who is cheerful and coherent from the minute he wakes up. 
I am not. 
I am not cheerful 
and I do NOT want to have a conversation about whether we should put lawn feed on the grass, as soon as I open my eyes.
But he's not here at the moment and I'm on autopilot with the kids in the morning until I get them on the school bus.
By the time I'm ready for a chat, everyone's gone....


This week's Gallery theme is Morning.


11.5.12

Day 170 - Pushing my luck?

My husband found this in the garage when he got back from his last 6 month tour of Afghanistan...

"SURPRISE!" I said. And he was.
You see my husband had never shown the slightest flicker of interest in owning a camper. But I'd managed to convince myself that he just didn't know he wanted one. And as he stood there, struggling for words, I knew it was going to be ok: the cards were stacked in my favour - I had just looked after the children for 6 months; he was hardly going to turn round and say, 'take it back'.
Anyway I couldn't, because I'd bought it on ebay.
All things considered, he took the news pretty well.

Looking back on it, it was a bit mad - but coming up to the end of a tour, you experience such an overwhelming mixture of relief, tiredness and elation: it's a giddy combination.....
So an absolutely perfect time to do something rash.
And in my head I had this lovely romantic picture of family camping trips, based I'm sure on childhood memories. We always had a camper. I'd learnt to drive in an orange and white VW.

I did check out the old VW's first, but they were very expensive, even in poor condition. When I saw our Toyota camper-to-be, she had a VW look without the price tag, AND she slept five. So I packed the kids into the car and we headed off to Mold in Cheshire to take a look.
It was a lot further away than I thought.
She did look lovely though, but as her owner ran through the essentials, I felt a wave of panic, because it suddenly struck me just how little I knew about campers (or anything with an engine) and I wasn't sure what to ask or what to look for.
Obviously this sensible moment of doubt had vanished by the time we got home, so based on some rather sketchy advice from my mum's partner ('She's a steal! Toyota's go forever!') I placed my bid, waited nervously, and won.

I did some tinkering before my husband saw her. New curtains - the first and only ones I've ever made, and I recovered the tatty old seats with A LOT of help from a friend.


We have been lucky with Betty, as she came to be called. It could have been a disaster. If I was ever to do anything like this again, I'd take someone with me who knew what they were talking about.

She is over thirty years old and needs to be handled with care. Flat, straight roads are fine - sometimes we reach heady speeds of around 50mph - but Betty hates hills.
Unfortunately we live at the top of a very steep one. She usually screeches up it in second gear with everyone shouting and willing her on (and praying there isn't anything coming the other way)
So it probably won't come as much of a surprise to hear we don't stray far in Betty. Having said that, we live right on the south Wales border, and there's no shortage of beautiful places to explore.

My husband has learnt to love her. I think. And we both like the way the pace of life seems to slow down as we trundle along. Sometimes you need to go slow to appreciate what you've got.

We have had a good laugh about the Betty-buying-episode over the last two years.
And now, here we are again.
Except this time he's gone away for TWELVE months....and I've got a few ideas....

10.5.12

Day 169 - One for sorrow, two for joy...


...three for a girl,  
my little girl in this case...



My little magpie
loves sparkly, twinkly things,
keeps them in a secret place,
beads and coins and rings.

My little magpie,
always very quick:
sees a penny, picks it up,
doesn't miss a trick.

My little magpie,
sharp and bold and clever:
knows just when I need a smile,
shines bright as any treasure.

5.5.12

Day 166 - Birthday list

"What would you like for your fifth birthday sweetheart?"

"I'd like some sparkly shoes."

"Sparkly shoes?"

"Yes, glittery, sparkly ones....and I really, REALLY want a fluffy toy puppy that moves."

"But you've got that fluffy Zhu Zhu pet puppy thing that moves..."

"NO mummy, I want a fluffy toy puppy that moves, with LEGS and a LEAD and a CARROT."

A pup-it?

I 'm linking up with 'Out of the mouths of babes' at Yummy Mummy? Really?

26.4.12

The Gallery: Action


Pedal power!

A special moment last week...the stabilizers came off and after a morning of wobbly attempts, she got it!  
When I look at this photo, I can hear her squeals of delight - she was one happy bunny.
The best bit was her dad was there to see it. And he's a lot more patient than me.....
We had smiling, steering and no pedalling: smiling, peddling and no steering.  We also had a few of minor tumbles, hence the grassy route. 
But she was so determined. 
I love that about her.  
I also love that she learnt to ride a bike in her velvet dress. My girl doesn't do trousers. Sometimes I can't believe she's my daughter.
Now we need to find a bike with a bit more style....
Watching her, hurtling along (not necessarily in the direction she planned) there was an ever so tiny flicker of sadness, because she's my baby, and it was one of those moments when it hit me just how fast she's growing up. 
Another step along the path: another milestone passed.


This week's Gallery theme is Action.
(The link up has been postponed)



21.4.12

Day 152 - Back to life, back to reality

When I opened my eyes this morning, I was on my own...again.
He left in the middle of the night while everyone was sleeping.  I don't know if this makes it easier - any time is hard - but there was no moping about all day; no long drawn out goodbyes, and I hate the goodbye bit. We woke up and he was gone.


I had that split second of calm before reality crashed in. Just as gloom clouds were gathering, the nine year old popped his head round the bedroom door and asked if I was OK.
'I'm fine sweetheart.' And I will be. Fine. I don't want them to see me down.  I know that how I'm coping affects them. I want everything to feel as normal as possible. 
Then the youngest came in and practically dragged me out of bed to look at a big black and white cat in the garden. Life goes on. Kids are great dwelling deterrents.


We had a fantastic two weeks with him, but things don't click straight back into place; it's always a little bumpy at the start. Just takes a while to get into the swing of being together again - no matter how desperately you've been looking forward to it (or dreaming of handing over the kids and heading for the hills....)  For months he's been concentrating 100% on work and I've been running the show back here, so we both have to find a comfortable in-between place.  As usual we found it - and then he had to leave.


Anyway my plan is to run round the horrible old 'pit of despair' so fast, there's no chance of me falling in. Busy is good. And saturday mornings are always hectic - never thought I'd actually be grateful for that. 
If the kids let me, I'm going to spend some time in the neglected garden later. I always find a bit of digging and chopping helps. 
But looking a little further ahead, I'm going to add to the list of things I planned to do during the last 5 months, but never quite got round to. It's an opportunity to set fresh goals. Well, that's how I'm looking at it. 
So I'm going to do more running and kettlercising; I'm going to see if I've got what it takes to do some radio work; I am going to take more photos and try to write some poetry; I'm going to go camping with the kids...and maybe further afield in the summer holidays.
OK, so it mightn't all happen, but these thoughts are helping at the moment. Because it's rubbish when he goes.

19.4.12

Day 150 - Keeping it real

I was woken up this morning by the youngest prodding my arm and hissing in my ear...


"How many days now mummy?"


I felt my stomach tighten and swallowed hard,


"One day sweetheart - Daddy goes in one day."


She frowned and gave me that withering, don't-you-know-anything look,


"NOT THAT mummy! How many days til I start SCHOOL DINNERS?"


Wasn't sure whether to be relieved or ever so slightly concerned.