We do have a choice; the usual army life dilemma - stay put while he works away, or go with him and move every year or two. We've tried both and decided to put down roots so we had somewhere to call home and the kids could stay at the same school. But we do spend a lot of time apart. It's not ideal and wouldn't suit everyone, still, given the choices it's the one that seems to work for us. Of course we miss him during the week and it can be lonely, but honestly, nothing is ever going to be as bad as last year when he was away for 12 months.
I do think we'd struggle if he found it hard to switch off from work at the end of the week, but my husband's always been brilliant at leaving it all behind, and jumping straight back in at home. Quite often he'll come through the door on friday evening and go straight upstairs to bath the kids - I never have to ask. And he knows better than to complain about being tired.
We still try to cram too much into a weekend; that's never changed, but as the kids get older I know he likes to spend time with each of them, on their own.
Sport's the thing with the eldest: playing and watching football, tennis, cricket..it doesn't really matter, as long as it's sport. He reads and sings to the youngest, and with the middle one it's a weekend walk down to the river. Just the two of them. The 8 year old loves it - and as strictly no one else is allowed to go, these lovely photos were taken by my other half.
Spot the hanger on? Humbug our crazy rambler cat always follows them..
They do lots of boy stuff, so I'm told - skimming stones, making dams, finding 'perfect' sticks and looking for treasure (interesting stones)
To do proper river exploring, you really need to get in the water..
this was close enough for Humbug!
It's all so familiar now that he's made up names for special places along their route - this is Palace Falls, don't you just love that? I asked him why, and he said because it's majestic! They're doing Wow words at school at the moment..
I requested this one - mum's flower photo. Love all the woodland anemones in among the trees.
The 8 year old gets home full of beans with a pocketful of stones - pink cheeks and a sparkle in his eyes.
A good dose of adventure with dad seems to help recharge his batteries, ready for 5 days...with mum.
Linking up with Country Kids from Coombe Mill