Saturday, 19 May 2012

How do I find the time to......

...doing this Meme has made me realise I'm pretty rubbish at managing my time. Room for improvement I think. Lots of room.
It's been useful though - a mix of home truths and homework really - so thanks Recipe for tagging me.

First (very important)

Here are the rules:
1. Please post the rules
2. When answering the questions, give as much information as possible. It’s all about the finer details people!!
3. Leave a comment on Sex, drugs, rocker…and stroller,baby. ( This is so we can keep track of the Meme and take a polite nose into everyone else’s lives.
4. Tag 3 or more people and link to them on your blog.

Second... the main event: How and when do you find the time to….

Do the laundry: The thought of laundry makes my heart sink: I'm always doing it, but it never gets done. It's one of the constants in my day. In my every day. The only time I ever really see the bottom of the laundry basket is when my eldest tips everything out on the floor to find his football socks. Sometimes I feel I'm close, and then the boys come back from school...
They are dirt magnets. 
90% of the washing is their stuff.

Write a blog post: This isn't so tricky. I usually blog at night when the kids are in bed - then it's just me, the cat and the TV - no one else to worry about as my husband's away until December. And I'm watching less telly, which has got to be a good thing? I am in awe though of all of you who blog with your other half about.
If mine was at home I think I'd struggle with the blog/chat balance.

Look after yourself : Confession time - I've always been bad at this, even before the kids came along. I usually get round it by not looking in the mirror.... 'out of sight out of mind' (Can backfire though - yesterday I chatted away to the vicar for 10 minutes with one of my daughter's pink glittery clips stuck in the front of my fringe. I'd put it there for safekeeping...) 
The thing is the kids are all at school, so I have the time now - I'm just finding it hard to change my ways, and I don't have much of an incentive at the moment. 
The children don't seem to mind if I can plait the hair on my legs. 
I do try to do a bit of exercise. Going for a run always makes me feel better.
Spend time with your other half?: I miss having to think about this.

Do fun stuff with your Little Ones: School and clubs take up most of the week now, but I try to spend time doing things with them at the weekends. 
It is hard though when they have such different ideas of 'fun'. My eldest is only interested in sport, his brother wants to be Mister Maker and the youngest likes dressing up as a fairy. Finding stuff to do that doesn't bore the pants off at least one of them isn't easy. 
Having said that we've had a lot of fun together in Betty the camper, and cycling in the Forest of Dean is always a winner. Cooking works too, as long as it's quick.

Spend time with your family: All my family bar one sister live in Northern Ireland. Sadly my dad isn't well, my in-laws don't like to leave home and my mum is terrified of flying. It's a marathon for her to get here so she only comes about once a year. She's just been, so that's probably my lot until 2013. I go over when I can, but with parents, in-laws and sisters to see, I'm usually on my knees by the time I get home.

Socialise with friends: I'm 'norman no mates' during the week, which means I'm usually desperate for some adult chat by the weekend. The friends who know me best aren't close by, but I don't mind a bit of a drive. And they have been amazing; though it's definitely more a case of them making time for me. Weekends are precious, yet they're always having the four of us to stay. If it wasn't for my lovely friends I'd be a crazy loon.    

Prepare an evening meal juggling a baby/toddler bedtime routine? Mine aren't so little anymore so it's pretty straightforward, and I eat with them. Only thing is I can't take my foot off the pedal - I need to keep up the homework-tea-bath-bed-momentum, or it can all go pear-shaped pretty quickly.

Deep clean your house: I don't deep clean, I'm a clean as I go along kinda gal, so it looks fine if you squint. I'm also quite keen on preventative cleaning: kids shoes off, food in bowls or at the table, felt tips/play doh on request...
I've learnt that if anything is going to tip me over the edge, it's coming downstairs to chaos - morning or night. I can't do chaos, it makes me stressed. Weirdly I look after the house better than I look after myself.

Do the food shoppingWe live miles away from a supermarket. I resent making a special food shop trip because it takes up half the day, so usually slot it in with something else, or shop online. I don't have to take the kids anymore and always regret it when I do. 

Do bulk ironing: I haven't ironed anything for years. I'm not joking. I hate ironing with a passion. We have an Aga - it has a mind of its own when it comes to cooking but is totally brilliant for pressing clothes/sheets....anything really. OK, the clothes don't look perfectbut I'm happy. 
My husband is a ninja with an iron and won't let me near his shirts. Yay!

So that’s how I find the time....sort of. I’d like to know how JoMummaGJackie K and Ginger find the time.


  1. Enjoyed reading this, gave me a laugh too :-)
    I shall take part, might take me a day or 2 but I shall definitely do it.
    People are always asking me about how I manage my time with 6 kids, it's a very finely honed routine now.
    Very Happy Birthday to your son (and dauhgter ?) apologies if I got that wrong.
    Hope you've had a lovely week xxx

  2. That's great Jo - you're so busy, just take your time - it took me ages!
    You're absolutely right about the birthdays - my eldest and youngest. All gone well so far - just one more party to go! xxx

  3. I'm looking forward to having a go at this - reckon I'll find the time in the next day or so!
    A lot of your answers would be mine too - very similar I think!

    1. Look forward to reading yours... think we are on the same wavelength :)

    2. I've done it! Finally "found the time" :)

  4. Loved your 'Silent Sunday' pic.

    I once ironed the Husband's army uniform and his RSM gave him grief about letting his wife do the ironing, so I never touched it again, and I avoid his work shirts if I can...

    1. I occasionally offer (to show willing) KNOWING he'll turn me down :)

  5. Thanks for tagging me :) Your answers are fun - think mine will be fairly similar!

    1. You're very welcome - look forward to reading your list x